You’re in the final stretch!
Here’s arguably the most important thing you can do during your third trimester (outside of having your car seat installed or checked by a professional): Create a “village.”
We are firm believers in the age-old saying “it takes a village” especially as it relates to being pregnant and having a baby. A good friend once told us to write down on a sticky note the names of the 3 (or more) people who you can turn to for good, sound advice. Create this community now, of people you know and trust, who will be there for you as your sounding board now and after your baby is born. This can be a family member, friend, or team of healthcare professionals like us. Identify who they are now, establish that relationship with them (especially if it is a new relationship) and reach out to them when you need them most. People who thrive have support networks. And the time to work on your support network is before you need it.
People are going to be giving you a lot of advice. Boston NAPS offers a unique perspective: All this advice you receive is likely well-intended, but our mission is to help you find processes that are right for you and your family and to help you feel confident in your parenting decisions. We want you to be so confident, that you can guiltlessly say “No thank you” (either in your head, or out loud) to parenting advice that doesn’t work for you or seems condescending.
Fun Fact: While you are dreaming about your baby, did you know your baby may be dreaming about you too? Research at this gestational age that looked at brain wave activity measured in a developing fetus showed different sleep cycles, including what we call rapid eye movement phase, which is the stage when dreaming occurs.
Did you know that once your baby is born, they often confuse nights and days because they slept in utero when you were moving around during the day? This is why you probably want to have a night nurse for your baby at least one or two nights a week. Start the process of signing up for a Boston NAPS night nurse now, so when you are in desperate need of Zzzzs… all you need to do is text Boston NAPS and schedule a nurse to come the next night.
We said that having your village is the most important thing you can do, second to having your infant car seat professional installed or checked by a professional. Boston NAPS co-founder Jamie O’Day is nationally certified Child Passenger Safety Technician (CPST). If you live in the greater Boston area, she can come to your home and install your car seat, or verify that you’ve installed it correctly and safely yourself. Also, as mentioned earlier, if you are interested in having a night nurse (a nurse who watches the baby overnight and helps you get as many consecutive hours of sleep as possible), click here to start the application process.